Will she respect me in the morning?

The demystifying diva's topic this week; will a guy respect a girl if she sleeps with him too soon?

If you are reading this and you manage to seduce me, then yes I would have trouble respecting you in the morning.

1. Because I’m married & the wife doesn’t read my blog.
2. Because she slept with me, really could she stoop much lower?
3. Because even after you slept with me you stuck around until the sun came up.

To directly answer the question: will a guy respect a girl if she sleeps with him too soon? Nope, but I can't image to many of the ladies out there respecting a guy they bedded to soon either. Much less wanting long term / meaningful relationship with him. Sure there are the exceptions to the rule, lust love at first site, blah, blah, blah... But thats just what it is and exception.

A majority of the guys I ran around with i college would try to get a girl into the sack on their first date. If she was a willing participant, then normally their relationship didn’t progress, if she didn’t then she was “relationship material�. Was it right? In my opinion no, I’ve had more than one argument about it(prior to anyone jumping to conclusions I didn’t even attempt to kiss my wife goodnight until our third date).

Its just fact that there is a double standard(don't bitch at me I didn't set it) that most people adhere too, otherwise the question would have been "would you respect someone you slept with too soon". Currently in our society it is acceptable for a guy to sleep with as many women as possible, whereas a woman is expected to remain chaste. To me its none of anyone else's business who's playing slap and tickle with who.

If you can respect yourself in the morning, more than likely the person you've just rolled around in the hay with is going to respect you too. But my bet, and I'd feel pretty safe making it, is that if you're going to respect yourself in the morning you've waited until the time is right. What's the right time, that is a matter that you'll have to discuss with the person you're gonna bump uglies with. Which means yup, you really should at least discuss doing the horizontal mambo with your partner prior to the act.

I can’t really say it any better than The Wizard and Feisty have, it's all about self respect. Silk does a great job describing the three types of hoodlums that are trying to get your daughters in the sack. Sadie calls a spade a spade and lays out the mindset of a majority of my college friends regarding sex(are men really that transparent?) Kathy explains why women think men are pigs, "I promise I'll call really I will", and like Sadie she finds that men are transparent(I'm noticing a trend).