I'll Call
This week's Men's Club & Demystifying Divas topic: The meaning of those three little words uttered after a first date, no not "Let's get naked", "I'll call you".
The problem, as several of the other participants have noted, is there isn't an industry standard. How long are you supposed to wait after the first date are you supposed to call. Women expect different things (yes I realize this is the understatement of the Millennium). There's a fine line between attentive, too needy, stalker and uninterested. Call too soon there's definitely something wrong with you, call to late you obviously aren't interested and can't be bothered, oh the joys of dating make me happy to be married happily (at least my wife keeps telling me I’m happily married, so it’s true right?).
Personally I never used the “I’ll call you” line while dating. After the first date if I was interested I asked when she would be around so we could chat. Thus giving her ample opportunity to make up an excuse to dodge my call or let me know when she’d be there to stalk. If I wasn’t I told her it’s been real, it's been fun, but it hasn't been real fun. To me it didn’t make since to lie; of course I’ve been told I’m overly logical and analytical at times, but I think the people that made those statements were reading way too much into it.
Why some guys say “I’ll call you” and never do. The answer is plain and simple, and I apologize in advance for my language, they’re chicken shits. I thought about it for a great while and there really isn’t a better description for them; I started to just call them chickens but that would be an insult to my favorite snack. For a person to look directly into somebody’s eyes that they just went out on a date with and blatantly lie to them is inexcusable; they’re the lowest of the low, they’re chicken shits.
Why do some males feel it is acceptable to blatantly lie? For some reason a large portion of the male population, I refuse to call them men, think that women can’t handle the truth that the guy just isn’t interested. Maybe it’s their ego, some guys honestly think that all women want them and can’t handle the thought they aren’t interested. Some just don’t have the spine to tell a woman they aren’t all that interested. Any way you go about it they’re chicken shits, either egotistical chicken shits or spineless chicken shits.
If you’re offended by this because you’ve used the line to get out of an awkward situation, tough think about the person waiting for a call.
For more reasonable and well formulated statements there are the Darling Delectable Demystifying Divas. For other testosterone laden ramblings there are the other members of the men’s club.
